At long last, the day has finally come to say farewell to 2020. I’m going to spare you the details on what made this year particularly unique, because I’m sure there are plenty of people who could summarise it better than me. That and quite frankly, I’m sick of talking about it! That being said, I have seen a few different quotes floating around the internet that I have found have really resonated with me. Particularly one about how 2020 was the year that we learned to appreciate everything we have. What a great thing for us to be reminded of, global pandemic or not.
Over the past few weeks, I’ve been thinking a lot about the relationships I’ve had in my life, as a pretty major one of mine has recently been rekindled. Throughout my life, I can admit there are times where I have been quick to dismiss friendships I’ve had with people. Mostly relationships I’ve had with close girlfriends in my teens and early twenties. During those times I can recall feeling extremely hurt, betrayed and a strong sense of righteousness. I’m the one who has been treated poorly and I’m the one who is justified in my reaction to this, is the thought process I would always have. And while there is always right and wrong behaviour, something I have recently learnt is that not everyone perceives situations the same way. Moreover, not everybody communicates in the same way, or receives communication in the same way. Even when it seems so clear to me.
Maybe its something that has come with age, or perhaps it’s the strange circumstances we’ve found ourselves in this year, but I have found myself reflecting on situations from the past where perhaps I have been just a little too quick to judge. And as someone recently told me, as well intentioned as I might be, my directness doesn’t always land the way I intend it to. Perhaps I need to be a little kinder to those who’ve hurt me, more gracious and a little more gentle with my words. Not all relationships with people are easy, but a lot of them are definitely worth fighting for.
As we say farewell to 2020, this is what stands out to me the most. Nothing in this life is guaranteed and God can throw you some of the most unpredictable circumstances imaginable. What you choose to do with them is up to you, but if I have learnt anything this year it’s not to take anything, people included, for granted.
Wishing you all a very happy new year xxx